If you googled “Supporting Spouse Through PhD”and found this website, then you’ve come to the right place.

I’ve been a graduate wife for 8 years. There has been many a time over the past few years where I felt alone, and was sure no one knew what I was going through. When I began to have conversations with other women who were in similar shoes, I started tracing themes: identity, finances, careers, motherhood, family, dreams, desires, depression, and goals in the graduate life. After many, many, many months of conversations with graduate wives, and graduate husbands, this blog was born.

MC and I truly believe life is to be lived in community, and we want this blog to be part of your journey.  A journey down the graduate road should not be traveled alone. While we will cover issues that we think relate to being a graduate’s wife, we also want this to be an interactive community.  If you post a comment in the comment section, we will answer; or, feel free to email us at if you have any questions about graduate life. If you have an idea for a blog we’d love to hear it, but don’t be surprised if we email you back and ask you to write it!

My own personal hope is that the women who write for this blog will be an encouragement to the women who read it. We are telling these stories to nurture you on your own journey.  You are not the first woman to walk this road, and you definitely won’t be the last.

It takes an amazing woman to set aside her own desires and dreams to support the one she loves the most. Not many can do it; but if you’re taking the time to read this blog, then consider yourself amongst family.

And know that you are loved.



14 thoughts on “Welcome!

  1. I look forward to everything you post! I know you have already helped me on my “graduate wife” journey!

  2. I found out about this blog from Nicole Parker and I’m sure that it will be helpful in the years ahead. I’ve spent 5 years as a graduate wife in the States and we’re planning for 3 more in Durham England this fall (w/ a family of 6!). I have a feeling I’ll be a regular here! Thanks so much!!

    1. Miranda,
      It is so nice to have you here! We’d love to have you share from all your experience whenever you can. Let us know if you are interested in posting. Welcome and all the best with your upcoming move!

  3. So glad to have found this blog through Nicole! As the wife of a medical student, I can definitely relate to almost everything posted on here. It’s always comforting to know that there are people out there going through the same struggles and challenges as I am.

  4. Last night I thought there should be some sort of support group for girlfriends/fiancees/wives of grad students (I really think each school should have one, and it would be well attended!) and I’m happy to see so many other women had the thought before me! So far I’ve only read this first post but I’m excited to keep reading :) Glad I’m not alone!

  5. I am really happy I found this. I will be getting married in May and my soon-to-be husband will be starting his PhD program the following fall. We will be moving States away from Missouri (where we grew up) and I am anxious, yet unbelievably excited for our journey ahead. Looking forward to exploring this blog!

  6. Wow, I’m SO happy I found this blog. I’ve been feeling like no one was truly understanding what I’m going trough, till now.
    Thank you so much :)

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